Lumen uses AI and must have a minimum of three images on a profile. Hardly a groundbreaking new twist or unique UI but an interesting progression. Apps have done a lot less and seen success. Argouges and the team don't have everything planned and are ready to ask a lot of questions as the app rolls out.
Are the overs ready for an app only service? Are overs as easy to find as millennials online? Will we be able to have an age positive influence on society? These are the questions we will be asking in the coming weeks. MISTAKE 2: If he seems too good to be true, he probably is: Although there was always that doubt that he was real, a part of me wanted to beleve that I had met a good man. That was on I have never heard from him since. He is now back on tbe dating site and has blocked me. He never asked for money and no financial info was given. Perhaps others can weigh-in on this?
Was he using the information I gave to set-up a female profile to use in order to con older men out if money? Is he some deranged person who sets-up a fantasy world in which he is the perfect man? Is his goal to play this game for his entertainment? I will never again give out my number until we meet.
But this guy, and others like him, could hurt another woman very deeply. Perhaps by doing this, they can fantasize that they are the same strong, virile man they used to be, and are having great sex with that hot, perfect woman? Many of the men who DO want to meet talk only about sex. They seem uninterested in anything else. Some want your initial meeting to be in a motel parking lot!!! Men seem to be more likely to fall for these than women.
Seems very hypocritical. You got it, almost word per word right out of my mouth! Great summary, and now for more of stitch!! Would rather pick up and phone though and talk with someone. Body not perfect but sure is busy anyhow. Thought I was registered and hope to be one of the first. I keep waiting to hear more. Friend but not foe: romantic or not, travel or not, but not sitting and watching movies or TV all night. An in-person meeting in a busy public place is better way to screeen. Profiles are often not written by the writer. Hi Nancy! I am 59 and still active.
I love walking and talking about everything. I am alone now, so I am looking for new friends to share my life with. Nancy, I am also 70, widowed, and active. Still working to keep active. Email below if you want to communicate further. I know that my own social lifestyle and pursuits have been changing through time and this progression in Stages Of Life.
So I expect that execution will be everything. And extent of participation. I know that others around my age are not as experienced or oriented. Thanks for such a thoughtful and insightful comment! Thank you for recognizing the need for a site to connect older adults. Thanks Eileen! Thanks for coming on the journey with us! Thanks Andrew for answering Eileen first.
I also answered and yes, I think you have a product here. If Eileen asks for information to get hold of me, please feel free to give her my email address. Of this generation, we want friends — people we can connect with, have fun with and maybe we even know people in common. This is a very important site you are establishing.
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Thank you for doing so. Have always thought of answering them about that.
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How many members do you have? How many do you foresee having when you are in full swing? When do you expect to be up and running? I wish there was an area on both male and female profiles so you could leave a dateing review of your overall interaction with them. Like rate my introduction time. Quality phone experience. Sincerity experience. Some kind of clue as to what you might want to just pass on. Well, this has real potential!
So I signed up for this right away. I really need to play and laugh more and am looking forward to meeting like-minded people. Thanks for doing this; I have high hopes! Thanks Maya! It is far beyond what the younger set wants. I personally would like to meet a christian man who enjoys gardening etc, Not looking for marriage. Good luck on the new site. I have been on the online roller coaster for a year now and it really is disheartening to see the deceit that goes with it.
Posting pics that are 20 years old and saying boasting things that are so not real either. Being online gives you a sense of protection from being caught in an untruthful statement. This gives you a voice behind the picture and can seal a deal to have a meal together not a drink or coffee. You can learn alot over a meal. Table manners mean alot to some of us…..
This sounds exactly what I have been looking for. I want to make more friends, companions without all the complictaions of so called dating to fing a relationship. I got a lot of feedback from people about the age I chose when I first wrote that post, so Stitch is actually open to anyone over The only rule we enforce is that you need to be over 50 to join Stitch. Our members range from 50 up into their late 80s!
I have tried many of the others…. I wholeheartedly believe in finding many instead of just one…. We all need friends and companions…. Very excited about this new site. I have been doing online dating for awhile. Very discouraging. Im so hoping this one will be different. I wish you so much success with your endeavor. Thanks Martha! Our biggest challenge is going to be making sure everyone hears about Stitch so we can get a lot of really nice people signing up … the real key is making sure that the people on Stitch are the sorts of people want to meet.
So anything you can do to help spread the word will be welcome! How do we find out what your schedule is for our areas? Stephanie p. Thousands of applicants and no response! Whereabouts are you located? Depending on where you are, we could be available to you in a few weeks to a few months from now. Hello, Just got done reading all the info and found it very interesting..
I am signed up with another dating service until Nov. It is great to know how much you are interested with the older crowd. Good Luck to you and I wish you the Best. Lorraine S. I would like to meet some senior people in my age about 50 years old and near my city, Houston. Just Signed up and have a try. I only signed up for Stitch because there was a segment on the news for folks 55 and older to meet. I was very excited when I heard about Stitch and sighed up about two months ago.
Love the idea. You are spot on and I hope you set the world on fire. How do you plan on attracting more men to the site? Also, location is a real factor, so I need more than just a hint about a potential friends distance from me. I work 30 miles from home and would also be up for events after work. On the other hand, many others want to see where someone lives as location is so very important to them. In general there is usually more females than there are males. As a Latina I would enjoy meeting fellas that are Latino as well….
Its not easy meeting new people especially if there is a hidden agenda. Thanks so much for such encouraging feedback! Sadly, if Stitch was looked at as a way to meet, greet and eat women men might come out in groves due to word of mouth. I still love people and still believe in humanity. Please let us know how you go! Andrew just come across your site but find its women on your blog never done this before perhaps need help have now one to ask.
Age I am looking for the eternal companion. I have tried Great Expectations , its just lunch and about 20 sites on the internet but lost money and nothing to show for it. I have had a rough growing up with parents, live in a rural area and only have one friend left. Have not dated in over 17 years. I agree with almost all of this — but the part about the phone? I get along fine in person, even in restaurants, but my cell phone is a trial. Hearing aids and cell phones are not a good match…. Email can be a much better alternative. Have you tried Phone calls via computer?
Use a good headset and I think you will be pleased. Humor is very dangerous via Email and I love to kid. Some have great volume and clarity especially on speaker phone. You always lose some fidelity when either party is on a landline as the phone system clips the waves so as to use less resources for more calls. I do believe electronic communication is great way to get to know someone with out wasting a lot of time and energy if there are barriers to things ever really clicking between the two.
Look thru a handful or more on Match or any other site and women over 55, as an example, are just as restricvtive on age range than the younger generations. I defy anyone to show me otherwise. Trying to decide which membership plan if any to upgrade to. It was interesting to read the comments.
I noticed that there were very few men who contributed. Is this normally the case, and more importantly, is this an accurate barometer of numbers of interested males verses females? Thank you for taking my question. Having said that, we are constantly working to increase the number of men on Stitch, and always welcome new suggestions to help in this area. We also notice that our men are much less likely to write comments on posts and activities than our female members — I think most online social media sites observe a similar phenomenon. Good article except that while I agree that it depends on the fitness etc of the person that can vary with ages, particularly as we get older, fitness is usually not included in the profiles and I believe there are still some differences in views and needs between generations.
For instance people still working, even part time, have different needs to people who are retired. A relationship may still work, but may have more complications. Also past histories, which still make us, even though we change and evolve, still have some impact on who we are and our perceptions, and people whose ages are significantly apart are likely to have less in common. While people may die at any age, there is more likelihood that someone 70 has less active life left than a person 55 and that could be important for people looking for long term relationships.
Who wants to be left on their own when they are older because their partner died much earlier if it can be avoided to some extent. I think an indication of the age of the person is still important for us mature adults. No need to state age preferences if not wanted but at least it gives a bit more ideal about a person than can be provided in the limited profiles.
This article is spot on! A lot of these folks, would be hard pressed to try dating 30 years ago without cell phones, instant messaging, internet or restaurants, entertainment venues and such on every street corner. All we need is good driving weather and possibly a bladder break or two. Some people may not mind, but others do, for various reasons — time available, ability to travel, preference to have friends in own location etc.
The same applies to ages. We all differ. Sorry to hear that Jennifer. If so please report the members concerned so we can take action. I am 56, very recently retired, very active, fit and adventurous. Is this a venue where I may find mature women of similar traits? Lucky to be retired so young! Stitch is definitely built to help people like you meet mature women with similar interests.
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I agree with all of what is posted and would add that everyone is differently unique and looking for someone who compliments their specific qualities. Wishing everyone much success and many loving connections….. Great article, well written and extremely thoughtful. Age is just a number and there are lots of us out there looking for a n other.
Thanks for sharing. Would you please use the word sex at least once in a while. I am no old dude in a trench coat. I want to date, share and have sex.
Are there woman out there over 60 who desire friendship yes. Your site is a very, very good site. I am not complaining. Great comment! I just called up your profile on Stitch and was a bit confused as to where you are located — are you in the Canary Islands? I will turn sixty next month. DOes anyone else out there feel as if they are still in their thirties — I do.
THanks to my love for exercise in all forms I have managed to stay quite fit and my age has not restricted my activities of daily living. I would love to meet someone my age or even older who I can have great conversation with, a man who is respectful and know s how to treat a lady and is also fun loving and loves great home made food admitted food snob ONe thing worries me however — I have heard of many woman and I am sure men as well, that have been burned by someone they initially thought to be Great and subsequently revealed their true colors.
So pleased you found us J! After being a widow for two years, I am just recently getting back into the dating scene and everything that you stated is spot on.. This new dating game is altogether different than when I dated 55 years ago. I am a 80yr old woman looking for friendship a casual relationship. Men in my age group are all looking for younger women.
Absolutely agree with all the points made here. Just started connecting — in person — with a guy that eHarmony matched me with. It was the same story, over and over, without much variance. Single dad, daughter usually in boarding school in some foreign country. Trust is important, so is companionship, and not necessarily marriage or looks. More and more senior people are looking for companionship online now. Since many senior couples have their first date as a result of their meeting on a senior dating site, that means, of course, you two should meet in a well-light, public venue.
That means, yes, you drive to pick her up. Only after the two of you are a couple and well past your third month of commitment can you start asking her to meet you at the venue. This is just a thought, but, did you ever consider a way to meet another senior in a city you are visiting just to have dinner or see a play or see the local sites. Thank you — seems like a great idea. Do you think this will be a possibility in the near future?
A 84 I may not have too long to search. Best wishes John S Hawkins, Lincoln. Yes the current state of pretty much every dating site out there is quite horrible. Stitch is very different. I am glad I have found your site as maybe another elderly woman lived the same situation in the past and could give me her opinion. I am 67 years old woman and have been single for quite a while. There is this 79 years old gentleman who keeps asking me to live with me. We went for supper a few times but he is very persistent and even though I appreciate his company I am very concern about developing a true relationship with him.
My worry is about age. He is very fit at 79 years old with a recent bill of health. Nothing is wrong. If I agree to live with him how worried should I be about future health issues. Example: I am too old to lift him if he falls. I cannot give him a bath once he get disable. I know it can happen to me as well but in 10 years he will be 90 years old. Should I be concern and not get involved with someone 14 years my elderly? This is not out of selfishness but consideration for both our ability to take care of each other. I could get sick sooner than he and maybe he will not be able to take care of me.
A relationship is more than watching TV together or going for a visit at the zoo. He is a fantastic guy and I wish I had known him many years ago. Maybe someone would share their experience in a similar situation. Thank you to those who will. Glad you found us! Let me know if you need any help! To me, if I were to find someone, I would like someone to be here 2 or 3 nights a week and I could do the same at his home.
You are so right to consider if he becomes disabled and you would then feel like you are required to take care of him. Undoubtedly, that is what this man is thinking about. Do NOT feel obligated to have him live with you. Tell him you love if you do or care about him very much but at this stage of life other arrangements are unnecessary. Seniors experienced with loss crave love, companionship, excitement, and potential longevity.
We rarely find what we set out for. If you find your soulmate, suddenly age becomes less important. An element of risk becomes a companion. Men risk financial security much more then women simply because more times then not, they can. The nurturing woman is more apt to risk her heart and overlook age and potential health issues for the right man.
Love amoung seniors has a depth and commitment unknown at any other time in life. It is also more complicated then other generations can imagine. Right decisions with the right mate is a gift beyond words. Wrong decisions with the wrong mate can be crippling for life. Why does it seem like society is so against women over 50 being proactive in finding love? On-line dating for Seniors is very hard. Age is important! Looks are still important! Loyalty and commitment to only one partner is important.
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Filtering is very important, especially about things like religion, ethnicity, age, weight, etc. About the only point I really found true in this entire article is that TRUST is very important — but i think that is true for all ages, along with respect and loyalty. For women, a lot more difficult. Because men always seem to want the younger women and when I say younger I mean the under 35s. Skinny, blonde, the whole 9 yards. If you are over 55, not white, and overweight…forget it.
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No one wants you. That is the truth. Get used to being alone lol. JiLi: True…trouble is the men want to text as well.. I hate it. Sadly, that seems to be the going thing. Too bad. A lot of younger women want to text and some even my age. I kind of live in the past. Texting cost money and smart phones are hard to operate with the large fingers I have. When I was a kid there was an 8 party landline phone either on the wall or on the desk. On a farm we were limited to a maximum of 2 phones.
We had a small dairy so we needed a second phone in the barn. There was no computers no wireless phones and neighbors were friendly. Now it seems that nobody is friendly any more and everybody has their own phone line. Men have had access to, specifically, on line pornography since the internet… beautiful young woman on line they pay to have pleasure with. Fnding the right one takes time. Unless your life is eerily similar to a rom com, weeding out all of the non-compatible ones may take a few weeks — or months.
It may get frustrating, but "slow and steady wins the race" is the mindset to have here. If it seems to be taking a while, that doesn't mean it's never gonna work — that's how it is for everyone. Something unique about eharmony and another reason why the process takes so long is that there's no search feature. At all. Unlike Match, it won't even let you browse a list of who's nearby outside of the matches they've picked for you.
Each day, you'll get a new batch of matches, which is fine if you've made good decisions in the past, but bad if one day's batch happens to be full of people you're not interested in. I appreciate their dedication to not wanting me to waste time on people I'm not compatible with, but I wish there was a bit of leeway.
On the bright side, matches you do get are very likely to want to talk to you, as you're clearly compatible and have things in common — and you won't be getting random "heys" from a million random people that you'd never talk to. You don't have to match with someone to talk to them, though, and you'll notice this when names and faces you've never seen before end up in your inbox. In the message section, you can think of your own opening line, send a pre-made icebreaker question if you're not smooth on your own , or simply send a smile, which is like poking on Facebook. And remember: "Hi" is not an exciting opening line for anyone to read.
That is how my five year old cousins iMessage me on their parents' iPad. If you went filter crazy when choosing criteria for potential matches and gave extreme answers on the sliding scales, a few log-in sessions will likely only produce tumbleweeds. Branching out from your "type" can be uncomfortable, but you won't regret it. Reddit user danigirl did, and it worked:.
I matched with 12 guys and proceeded to go through the automated motions very quickly. At the first chance eHarmony allowed me to communicate I sent my email address, asking them to reach out if interested. Long story short, met with with 10 of the 12 guys on first dates, none progressed to second date. But the 11th guy we continued to email for a month before finally meeting our schedules sucked. Went on 4 dates from very innocent, building up to dinner and sex , and became inseparable after that. Been married now for 5 years, together for 7.
Don't know why it worked for us. Maybe because we stopped looking for the 'next best' and decided to honestly give it a solid chance. Maybe because we were both brutally honest with what we exactly wanted and discovered we were both fairly well matched Did I run marathons, no. Was he 6' tall, hell no! We had to look past both our 'ideals' and just enjoy the journey in getting to know someone who was pretty terrific. With a free account, you can answer all of the personality questions, make a profile, and see your matches. That's it. You can't talk to anyone. Here's a tentative price breakdown, which literally just depends on when you happen to sign up:.
As a general rule, membership prices get lower the longer your commitment to the site is. Which makes sense, because a strong connection probably won't magically appear in just one month. Luckily, there's usually some sort of new member promo code. I guess it's an easy way to know that most potential matches would be serious, as I highly doubt someone just looking for a hookup wants to drop this much money on a one night stand.
And eharmony has that guarantee, remember? If you're not satisfied in three months, they'll give you three months for free. They're basically saying that your money will be worth it because you'll find someone in three months, or you'll get an extra three months to find someone without dropping a cent. If you cry at episodes of The Bachelor , eharmony might be the place for you.
I won't get all mushy on you guys, but I will say that you can tell that your matches are looking for something serious by the way they talk to you.
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Dating online and opening up to strangers takes courage, and users wouldn't be doing that if they were looking for anything other than the real deal. Obviously eharmony isn't the only dating site used to find a spouse, but it is pretty much the only site that is specifically dedicated to long-term relationships, and pretty much the only site that offers any type of stats on the marriages they're responsible for.
When you think of eharmony, you think of marriage. And so does everyone else — that's the point. Though some of their profile building is on the old-fashioned side, I have to hand it to their web developers: The site actually looks nice , and this was a pleasant surprise. If you're someone who appreciates a minimalistic design and needs those clean aesthetics to accept the site as legit, you'll be totally fine on eharmony. You'll easily be able to find all of the stuff you need, with clear labels and sensible placements of notifications.
It's design-forward enough for the young people who need modernization, but organized and simple enough for non-tech savvy people to get a handle on how it works.