Becoming lucid in sexual dreams is a way of becoming super mindful of our unconscious erotic imagery and sexual symbolism. Dreams speak in a metaphor-rich language, so that sexual dreams often act as metaphors for situations or emotions in our lives. Decoding sexual dreams can illuminate how we really feel about something or someone, or reveal hang-ups and obstacles that we need to overcome.
For example, sexual dreams in which we do not manage to complete the sexual act may not be referring to our actual performance in bed, but to a project we feel unable to complete. It could reflect an emergent desire for something new in our life, whether this is changing jobs or having another baby.
Engaging mindfully with sexual dreams can help us to tune in to our creative passion in life. Soon after that dream, her creative life took off and she discovered her passion for art therapy. There are both pros and cons to dream sex — since the vivid dreams we experience in REM sleep are by their very nature inclined to bizarreness, this can result in very weird erotic landscapes or sexual partners who may well morph from gorgeous people into uninspiring globs of plastic perhaps some dream figures literally melt with desire?
A research study led by Calvin Kai-Ching Yu reported that the kind of pornography people use influences their dream stories in precise ways. Once we become lucid in a dream, we can create our ideal erotic scenario on the spot, and anything seems possible. Sexual dreams can be emotionally and physically satisfying, and they are the safest sex imaginable, since they cannot result in sexually transmitted diseases or accidental pregnancy.
When we engage mindfully with our erotic dreams, we may also have the added benefit of experiencing psychological insights and opening up our creative horizons. Garfield, Patricia. Johnson, Clare R. Woodbury, MN: Llewellyn Worldwide, LaBerge, S. Greenleaf, and B.
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Yu, Calvin Kai-Ching. I've had several periods over the years when inexplicably I've begun to get frequent dreams. Of course it's nothing unusual when a teenager at school like most boys will experience but ever since then I've had erratic phases of having frequent wet dreams regardless of relationships or regular release.
I've had times when this hasn't been a problem due to being single but it's caused a few problems during relationships for various reasons. The dreams that can trigger my wet dreams will vary from complete fantasies to erotic dreams of female acquaintances such as during my first experiences over my teacher like pretty much most boys do. I don't know why after maybe as long as a year or so without actually ejaculating in my sleep all of a sudden a wave hits me and several occur in quick succession.
I had a really cruel experience recently after developing a major crush on my therapist who I'd spoken to specifically about this issue. Maybe because I discussed my issue with her for the only time ever she started to appear in a succession of erotic dreams and eventually becoming the main focus of my wet dreams i. Actually cuming. Unfortunately I ended up admitting it which was painfully embarrassing and had to stop attending even though she didn't insist this should happen.
I've since read a lot about 'transference' and do recognise certain elements but I'm still convinced there was definitely a bit of chemistry between us. I know this must happen a lot for her but not for me and I'm still really not over it. Should I avoid any more potential painful scenarios and just deal with these problems myself? Hi Flower, thanks for commenting - I only saw this today so sorry for the delay in responding. I was sorry to hear about your difficult experience with your therapist.
Having crushes is a perfectly natural part of growing up and even though it can feel terribly embarrassing, it's really just a sign that everything is "normal". In response to your question, I think in life it is impossible to avoid pain, but there's no need to feel as if you have to tackle all of this alone.
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It sounds as if you may be better off talking to a therapist again - maybe a male therapist this time, if you worry about potentially painful scenarios repeating themselves? Wet dreams are also completely normal, and so is fantasising about sex. Growing up can be full of new sensations and emotions and can feel quite turbulent but it's an exciting time.
You sound self-aware and thoughtful, and these excellent qualities are bound to help you as you go through this stage of your life. I wish you luck and good dreams! Clare Johnson. Hello,and thank you for your reply. Well after I stopped seeing her therapist after a lot of thought I did eventually go to a male therapist but tbh I felt a little bit too embarrassed to admit exactly what had happened and even left before I'd had the sessions I'd already paid for.
I think I can work out a lot of my issues without feeling uncomfortable sharing my private problems. I honestly don't feel like my feelings were just transference but whatever they are I have to deal with them. I do occasionally think I've managed to succeed in dealing with my feelings for her and hate how awkward I made the situation but out of the blue I've still woken up having a wet dream over her. I have not been in contact with her so at least she's not having to hear my embarrassing fantasies. I've actually begun to not feel the shame I did before so at least that's one good thing.
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