There are just so many different explanations for not wanting to get serious. Live and let live. But for our purposes? I will never make you wonder if your philosophy is right or wrong. I am someone who you will hurt eventually. I am bigger than this. Say it out loud now. I believe in love and I deserve nothing less than love. I want someone who is courageous and thoughtful, like I am. I want someone who knows how broken this world is, like I do. I want someone who recognizes how twisted and confused our culture is, and who dares to live outside of the bad trends and deeply idiotic reigning dictates of that culture.
I want someone who can see me clearly, because I know myself. I am wild and brave and brilliant and I will not settle for less than someone who knows their own raw power and potential the way I do. I am scared and sad and broken and I will not settle for less than someone who can stand to recognize how scared and sad and broken they are. We are just animals clinging to our short lives on this sad, doomed planet.
You know that and I know that, Seriously Angry. We need to be honest and clear and true and loyal to the other people who know that.
God bless them. Let them live however they want to live. We want to live among the urgent and the courageous. We want to be deeply loved by those who believe in love. We will not settle for less because settling for less would mean feeling less.
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We want to feel everything. Once you start asking for exactly what you want, you will be a bit much, too. It keeps the wrong people out of your way. They start to look like a fly on the wall, a bit of lint in the butter. And guess what? You get exactly what you want.
You might not be ready for true love, though. Consider that. You might be too afraid. You might dismiss it. You might have to learn how to accept someone who actually loves you.
Be prepared to be challenged by that problem soon, though. Because brilliant things fly into your arms when you open your arms wide.
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And until they arrive? Know in your heart that you will not get hurt and you CAN do better. Never, ever stop believing that you will fall in love again. Because believing in love is a good way to live as the clock ticks down. This is how it feels to be electric, buzzing, enchanted, alert, delirious, a true believer.
This is joy. Therefore you must be capable of responding to each other when you need something. You need to ask questions and constantly update your knowledge of one another. There is no magic formula or perfect algorithm for making a fruitful relationship with another human being. So next time you spot someone who catches your attention and makes your pupils dilate with interest and enthusiasm, pay attention to whether or not they can see the dream you envisioned for your life.
This article originally appeared on Learning-Mind.
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