You always know where they stand, and you can start from there. My husband is a genuinely nice guy. And sometimes we run into problems because of this. I cheerfully agreed to client requests, one-off promotions and small favors from friends and family. I was agreeing to unrealistic work hours or deadlines, and I was suffering for it.
I was just doing it all and hoping some of it would be successful. When I was in my mids, a much older man who worked in my building started to take an interest in me.
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He would read my news stories and columns carefully and stop by my desk to comment on them. I worked second shift with a thin crew, so there were times when I was one of the only people in the newsroom late at night, with not much else to do but wait around. He seemed a little eccentric, but I figured he was harmless. I listened probably for too long and engaged in conversation for the sake of being polite. Then the letters started coming—long, handwritten letters that included his thoughts on local politics and musings about life.
The letters started to get more personal, and this man kept stopping by.
Knowing them will help you to avoid falling under the influence:. When this happens, you might find yourself making excuses for them or doing everything you can to make them happy. See why it works for them? Stop trying to please them. Toxic people figured out a long time ago that decent people will go to extraordinary lengths to keep the people they care about happy. Walk away and come back when the mood has shifted.
If you have done something unknowingly to hurt somebody, ask, talk about it and if need be, apologise. Toxic people have a way of sending out the vibe that you owe them something. They also have a way of taking from you or doing something that hurts you, then maintaining they were doing it all for you. This is particularly common in workplaces or relationships where the balance of power is out. For Remember that. Just move forward — without them. Are you sure you want to go?
The message might be innocent enough but the tone conveys so much more. Mine was awful. Just awful. Meanwhile, your initial need is well gone on the pile of unfinished conversations that seems to grow bigger by the day. We all get it wrong sometimes but toxic people will make sure you know it. You can always say no to unnecessary crazy.
Be confident and own your own faults, your quirks and the things that make you shine. Hello its Jeffrey I just wanted to ask you something like how do you tell someone that you have had enough of them and these people follow you around,they come around to the next door neighbours and pretend they are there for a reason. These people actually stalk me where ever I go including overseas,i have tried to tell them on many occasions that I want nothing to do with them and one of them come around to try and listen to my conversations no matter where I go and then try to use this for there pleasure and to try and use this information for gossip and then try to use it against you.
Not going to win an election but not going to hurt someone. I thought the internet was a place we could all express our views being respectful of all. I have found it to be potentially more hazardous. To numb……I too had a narrasistic family member. My mother. I was an only child and got all the hurt directed to me alone. It sucked. Still hurts at 38 years old.
But let that make you loving to others and strong against the aggressors.
DO NOT take that out on your sister like u are done too and hurt. Band together in strength and loving behavior. Do not hurt her and become the traits that your brother has hurt u with or you are re creating the monster as yourself to her. She might not be so strong one day and carry out the actions that you held back with the suicidle thoughts.
Sending love and healing your way.. I know the pain and hurt first hand. I will never get the love I craved and still do. Even Acceptence for being born But I will not let that make me nasty soul sucker like my narcissistic parent. Peace and love. Rose up and together with love and sister. Thank you. Same situation here.
I am 57 yrs old and it still hurts. I am letting go if my toxic family. There is nothing I can do to change them. Very sad but working on myself and to find meaningful relationships eleswhere. I agree with you, particularly about being manipulative. Toxic people are master manipulators and very good at purposefully confusing others.
Detached contact or occasional interactions is a great way of dealing with a manipulative person. Great article. Very risky now for many of us single men just to say good morning or hello to a woman that we would very much like to meet unfortunately. That is unfortunate as there are many nice men out there I married one of them , but I would not put this in the same category as being toxic. Some women really are nasty and stuck up this I also know , but many just have a natural defense built up from past relationships or the negative reputation of men in general.
So sometimes all you can do is continue to be nice…a gentleman…and demonstrate your intentions with patience and courtesy. Since there are many of us men out there that never expected this to happen to us at all which it makes it a real shame for us since looking for love has certainly become so very impossible now. It is these kind of women that will only want the very best of all, and will never ever settle for less either.
So i would really have to say that these women are very toxic, especially the ones that will Curse at us for no reason at all when we will try to start a conversation with the one that we would really like to meet.
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Very obvious why our family members were very blessed and lucky when they found love with one another back in the old days since it definitely was a very good time back then for them when they met. Quite a change today in the women unfortunately today which even God has no control at all over them now. Many of us men were just never meant to find love no matter how hard we try, and many of us have a very excellent reason to hate the holidays when they come around as you can see.
I feel the same way and I am a woman and it is a shame. My feelings to you are mutual. I hope hope you do find a real lady that has morals and ethics. That is definitely descent. The kind of woman you would be proud to bring home to your parents. Good luck sincerely Cindy. Paul, instead of blaming everyone else for you not finding a girlfriend cut that judgemental attitude and start acting like a gentleman instead.
Being respectful to women is the key, trust me I know. It is very hard to have respect for women when many of us men get Cursed at by them. Thank You; these 12 points are right on. I am 67 living in a community of 55 and older. You reach out to brighten their day; such as planting some plants that you asked them if it was ok and they are happy and the next day you get torn apart for being a kind neighbor.
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I am 67 and have never experienced anger from people who I tried to be kind to. You should really look into a few books. One of which is called no more mr nice guy and the second is, the rational male. You HAVE to start focusing on chasing excellence for yourself. Having yourself as your own mental point of origin is the key. Doing anything in life for the opposite sex is a lose lose situation. Focus on yourself and start lifting, eating healthy, going on more excursions alone and hanging out with others without the intention of getting something in return.
It starts with you, you need to chase excellence not women. Good luck.
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Read those books. And look for a YouTube channel called the red man group. The matrix is real. Arthur is right, Paul. You sound judgemental and also seem to feel having a woman is your right. Not all women are like that.
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I am not like that. It us wrong to assume all women are all as you described. I have met men and women who do not have the same values and beliefs as mine. I just move on and try to join a group I am interested in and look for like minded people. No one will ever have exacttly the same standards as anyone eles. I learn from different people but keep my own individuality.